Entertaining with Charm

I’ve always loved hosting. There’s just something about setting the table, lighting a candle, and filling my home with people I love that makes my heart feel full. But if you walked into my house an hour before any gathering, you’d probably find me bribing my kids with fruit snacks to pick up toys, stuffing unfolded laundry into a closet, and trying to arrange flowers while a toddler clings to my leg.

Because here’s the truth: entertaining with charm is less about perfection and more about making memories. And when you’ve got three little ones underfoot, you learn real quick that perfection is a myth.

I used to think hosting meant everything had to be just so—the right linens, the perfect centerpiece, a menu straight out of a magazine. But over the years (and after a few too many Pinterest-fails), I’ve realized that the most magical moments happen when you let go of the idea that it all has to look flawless. Some of the best nights I’ve had weren’t about the fancy details—they were about laughter in the kitchen, mismatched plates filled with good food, and friends who stayed way past bedtime because they just didn’t want to leave.

Use What You Have —

It’s Already Enough

Some of the most charming gatherings come from using what you already have. That pretty dish that’s been sitting in your cabinet? Fill it with something simple, like fresh fruit or cookies from the grocery store. Those mismatched wine glasses? They have more personality than a perfectly matched set. And if all you have time for is takeout on real plates? That counts, too.

Last Easter, I wanted a gorgeous tablescape, but my reality was three kids running around the house like wild bunnies. Instead of running to buy new decor, I clipped greenery from the yard, used a linen napkin as a makeshift runner, and let my kids set the table. Was it perfect? No. Was it lovely? Absolutely.

Simple Touches, Big Impact

Charm doesn’t come from elaborate setups—it comes from small, thoughtful touches. A handwritten place card, fresh flowers in an old mason jar, music playing softly in the background, or a signature cocktail (or mocktail!) can make any gathering feel special. The goal isn’t to impress—it’s to make people feel welcome.

And listen, if you have kids, let them be part of it! My littles love to “help” (which usually means eating half the ingredients before they make it to the plate), but I let them fold napkins, sprinkle the sugar on dessert, or greet guests at the door. People don’t come over for a picture-perfect house; they come for the warmth inside it.

Memories Over Perfection—Always

At the end of the day, no one remembers if your plates matched or if your house was spotless. They remember how they felt when they walked through your door. Did they laugh? Did they feel cared for? Did they leave a little lighter than they came? That’s entertaining with charm.

So if you’re hesitating to host because your house is messy, your kids are loud, or your menu isn’t five-star—do it anyway. Set the table with love, pour the wine (or sweet tea), and open the door. Because the most beautiful gatherings aren’t perfect—they’re real.

And that, my friend, is the true charm of entertaining.